About Spiritual Direction

Spiritual Direction is a key discipline for Christian leaders because the dynamics of the ministry world are complicated and, at times, very lonely. The importance of having a “soul friend” to process the inner life becomes increasingly important as the pressures of life and ministry weigh us down with little relief.

In their book, The Practice of Spiritual Direction (William Barry and William Connolly) offer this definition of Spiritual Direction:

We define Christian spiritual direction, then, as help given by one Christian to another which enables that person to pay attention to God’s personal communication to him or her, to respond to this personally communicating God, to grow in intimacy with this God, and to live out the consequences of the relationship.

In his book, Guided by the Spirit, Frank J. Houdek states:

Spiritual direction is a conversation, a dialogue, between two people. In such a conversation one person aids another, often by a process of question and answer, to express his or her experience of personal faith and mystery.

As you think about entering into this type of ministry with me, please take some time to look over the following items that help define the pathway we want to travel together.

Usually, we begin with a schedule for monthly meetings that last six to nine months. There is no reason why this relationship cannot continue for many years.

  1. The person under direction (called a directee) either meets with me in person, or is responsible to set up a time to work over the phone or by Skype. These times need to be scheduled in advance.
  2. The directee is asked to make a six-month commitment to the spiritual direction relationship. At that point we will discuss if this ministry is meaningful in ways that lead to increased spiritual health. We reassess every six months to discern if we are sensing God would have us continue.
  3. It is important that the directee “bring something specific” to the spiritual direction appointment. The directee should take some time before each session to determine what he or she would like to process. Sometimes it helps to look into your prayer life (is it meaningful? Personal? Why or why not?). It may also help to look at your primary emotions (what have you been feeling?) to determine the place where God is at work.
  4. Some people journal in advance so they have a clear sense of what needs attention.
    The directee should know that there is no formula for the sessions. These times together involve sharing, listening, praying and times of silence as we listen to God. The goal is to discover what God is saying and doing in the life of the directee: “How is Jesus seeking to reveal himself through the experiences of your life?”. If a deep emotional or relational issue surfaces that will necessitate counseling I will be happy to assist you in finding a therapist while we continue in spiritual direction.
  5. My fee for spiritual direction is $95 per session. I work on a sliding scale for those who cannot afford this amount. If this is the case, I invite you to discern the appropriate amount and share that with me. My goal is to make spiritual direction accessible to everyone God is asking me to serve.

If you would like to explore a commitment to spiritual direction, please take some time to prayerfully consider this commitment and then contact me.

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